Driving back from AZ this evening I tuned into your radio show and enjoyed it very much.

My dear friend and I have been best friends for the past 9 months.  We share many of the same values and have bonded in many ways.  While we have always been close, for the 1st 6 months I was chastised frequently for wanting an intimate sexual relationship.  She made it clear to me that she did not think of me in that way and it has never been an issue or obstacle.  We continue to share intimate moments together.  We occasionally sleep in each other's beds in an affectionate way though not in a sexual way.  I would like to know if this friendship would grow into a lasting meaningful and exclusive intimate relationship.  She is 50 and I am 56.  I adore her and want to know if I am setting myself up for disappointment or is this a relationship that will blossom into something that is worth waiting for?  I have been taking it very slow with her and decided months ago to let her make the first move.  Will she?

Thank you,
Grand Canyon State Guy

Dear GCS Guy,

I did a relationship spread for you and your special lady friend. The card representing your energy tells me that you are looking for more than what’s being offered. The card representing her says that though you are the only man she’s spending time with, she doesn’t (at this point) view the relationship romantically.

The card representing the combined energy of the two of you says you both have yet to reveal your true natures. In other words, she may like the fact that the two of you are “just friends” because she gets the best part of a relationship with a man (your attention and companionship) without having to make a commitment. Having an intimate relationship with a man crossing an emotional line with her and I’m seeing that the last major relationship she had taught her a serious lesson about relationships.

The outcome card speaks to two things: one, that this relationship will always be based in mutual respect and friendship and two, if she doesn’t make the move to be intimate by August of this year, it’s very unlikely that she will in the future.

Thank you for writing,

Mona