Hi Mona,
We listen to you every Sunday but where we live we do not get good phone reception. So I thought I would email you and see if you could answer my question. When will my partner and I get married? Will it be this year and will he retire and move? Where he lives is not good for him, and besides, he doesn’t like it there. But the town is very corrupted. Thank you very much and hope to hear from you soon.
Bonnie
Dear Bonnie,
The months for beneficial change are between June and
October this year, so if a move will happen this year it
will be between those months. He’s really not supposed to
ever totally retire, because he’s a man that has to keep his
mind engaged - his boredom will dive you nuts!
If you stop stressing marriage, he’ll be with you for the
rest of your life. At this point for the two of you,
marriage doesn’t make good financial sense to him. He thinks
being with someone is a on-going choice.
He is a complicated man. I see that he may have had to deal
with rough issues as a child, or had to learn to control his
temper. Whatever his intimate holdback, it has nothing to do
with you. He views you as the best woman he’s ever had in
his life.
Ideally, it would be best if the two of you decided to purchase a house (or condo) together (50/50 ownership, in his and your name). Again, it’s the marriage issue that has him stuck and that’s why you’re not married already. So, if instead you treat the partnership of the two of you as though it IS a partnership, he’ll always be with you.
So, don’t even hint about marriage, simply live in the attitude that he’s with you by choice, because after all, you’re the best woman ever!
Thank you for writing! Mona
