Dear Mona,

I am listening to your show right now and I also have a question that you might be able to answer on your radio show. I like this girl and she doesn't like me that much. Will she like me for who I am or if I was something else???

CB


Dear CB,

The ultimate realization of any lifetime is to trust yourself enough to be YOU. Once you are comfortable with who you are, what you like, and what interests you, then you will attract other people who feel comfortable with the person they are.

We often find ourselves attracted to something in another (maybe even subconsciously) that we admire. And, sometimes we find ourselves attracted to someone who has made it clear that he or she is NOT interested. What is interesting about that circumstance is that speaks to our level of esteem…especially when we think this person's opinion (who holds no interest toward us) is true or credible.

You've asked me if she would like you if you were someone else. Who else can you BE besides you? You were created perfectly for the purpose of this lifetime. Instead of trying to get her attention (it's probably irritating her that you are) pay more attention to you.

The way to become you begins by sitting still enough to tune into what your body is feeling. You have love surrounding you, so that's not missing. You are smart enough to learn or do anything you want, so it's not that. Are you upset because you've presented your best self to this gal and she passed? Aha, that's it! You tried for something and didn't get what you wanted, so now you think there's something wrong with you. Everything you need exists within you.

I would say that you are under the impression that love is supposed to be difficult. For you to find yourself attracted to a girl who you know is not interested (in you) says to me that you would rather pine for the love that's unattainable than to accept the love that's offered. There is nothing wrong with you; we all have to experience this as part of the journey of this life. This gal is simply not the right match. If you try to be what you think she wants you to be you will eventually regret it. AND the reason for that is you'll have denied who you really are for what you think exists in this other person.

If anyone doesn't appreciate you for the person you are, then they are not worth your time and you can tell them that I said so.

Thank you for writing me and listening to the program all the way in Michigan!
Mona