How do we know if we are with our soul mate?

The great 17th century kabbalist, The Ari, wrote that you can know for sure if the other person comes to you from a far away country. "A far away country" is code for overcoming a great space that separates people. And that space is the desire to receive for the self alone, [ego.]

A real soul mate relationship is one in which two people give to each other completely. Their interest is not in receiving anything for themselves.

Now you see why The Ari said a far away country . Changing our nature from taker to giver is as difficult as crossing the Great Plains or the Atlantic or the Sahara or whatever geographical reference speaks to you.

Today, realize that all the relationships in your life have the potential to be soul mate worthy. The more you focus on the other person, on what they might need in any given moment, the closer you will come to revealing the deeper, more beautiful aspects of your bond.

The great Rav Chaim Vital [student of the Ari] wrote this on the subject of anger:

"Take the anger and sadness out of your heart because these traits will be obstacles between you and the Light. Make every effort to love the people around you and be happy even when not everything goes as you want."

Great advice, except he himself was well-known for his anger problems. The Ari often took him to a special lake where he immersed himself in waters that were said to remove rage. The point is, we all need to hear this advice, but it's not to say we are bad or off course if we do get angry. As long as we are conscious of it, then we're on the right path.

Today, work on taking the anger and sadness out of your heart. Forgive those "annoying" people. Maybe even give them some love? I'm sure they can use it; that's probably why they are being so annoying in the first place.

 Kabbalists use the code word bread of shame to explain what happens when you receive something without earning it. It's that sense of lack you feel when you get something for nothing.

Originally, your soul made a deal with the Light - give me everything I had in the Endless world, on the condition that I earn it. If you are alive and reading this, then you need to know that the only reason you alive and reading this is to remove any possible aspect of bread of shame from your life.

Today, look for examples where you received what you wanted and yet were left unsatisfied. Look for where you didn't earn what you received.

Balance is what we are all looking for, isn't it? A balanced bank account, balanced relationships, balance between work and play. Balance.

But most of us are imbalanced, aren't we? We take too much or give too little; we pig out for weeks, months, years on end and then we do these crash diets expecting to be detoxed on the spot; we're cold and unemotional one minute, open and vulnerable the next. It's no wonder the world is so out of whack. In case you haven't learned this kabbalistic teaching yet, let me be the first to tell you: humanity is the center of the universe. As we act, so the world reacts.

Today, seek balance. Discover where you have swung too far to one side of the behavioral spectrum. Maybe you've been especially down and shut in lately, so find ways to pick yourself up and get out there with the people. Perhaps you've been everyone's doormat, so practice receiving for a change. Or maybe you're just perfect, so, hey, let me know your secret.

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