Think a love relationship is passing you by
because you’re 50, 55, 65, even older? Think again – positively this time.
Although, it’s true that many couples who
get together in later life do circumvent the marriage service, it’s usually
for financial reasons. These include immediate loss of pension or health
insurance from a late husband; children awaiting an inheritance to which
they imagine they’re entitled; and worse, the threat of legal responsibility
for a spouse who gets sick and runs out of money. “That,” according to Bill
Browning, president of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, “can
drain life savings within months.”
Among couples who recently chose that route
is Jackie who lives with a former university professor (70+), Heather whose
significant other is an ex bank vice-president (85), voice coach David (75+)
who made his vows to Alma in a commitment ceremony – aboard the Queen Mary,
no less - and dozens of steady daters around the Valley.
In an attempt to stem this increasing
tendency a national campaign is underway to laud the wedded state. Posters
are already adorning buses and/or subway station walls in Washington D.C.
and Baltimore, will soon arrive in New York, and later, our own great city.
They proclaim: Marriage Works! Married People Accumulate More Money! Married
People Live Longer!
Among senior Las Vegans, who needed no
bidding, Yvette (55) married Fred at the Catholic Church, Donald (80+) took
Beverly as his wife at the Presbyterian Church, and Edith (80+) wedded her
beau at the Eagles Club.
All the while, those men and women who
remain single, by choice or otherwise, trip the light fantastic with
partners they encounter at local dances or Big Band Balls.
There’s certainly no reason to delay
joining them for fear the crowd may be too young; it’s easy to determine
which is which. There’s rarely anyone under 55 at an event playing Golden
Oldies. Ditto if it is held at teatime or early evening.
Right now there’s dancing on Mondays at 7PM
(with a free lesson at 6PM) at The Gold Coast; on Wednesdays at 7PM; at the
Santa Fe; Sundays at 4PM at Texas Station; and Thursday afternoons at
Although participating in games, lessons,
seminars, or club activities paves the way for a few lasting
friendships, it does take a while to develop them. Undoubtedly the quickest
method for meeting lots of eligible persons in all age groups
including the “49 and up” and “55 and up” categories is through Pre-dating.com
that runs events at The Cactus Club and other venues. Just check their
website, click on Las Vegas, and you’ll find all the upcoming events. When
you register, use the code AVLV, I’ve obtained especially for my readers, so
you’ll even receive a discount.
As long as you avoid confusing this with
internet dating, (ignore such sites that sometimes intervene as pop-ups),
there’s no reason to be reticent about trying this modern craze or harbor
misconceptions about its being all about sex, or only for the young. When I
researched the practice and spoke to local participants I found the seniors
to be sound, intelligent, usually widowed men and women, who had held
responsible positions during their working period. All were seriously
interested in finding a companion with whom to reconstruct a stable life
and, perhaps, go cruising, touring the country by RV, or experiencing other
leisure pastimes they denied themselves during years of heavy family
As a bonus, they said, pre-dating prevents
spending money and time on person after person after person who turns out to
be unsuitable for the long-term, or clinging to someone with whom the
chemistry is not right just because there’s nobody else around.
Heather Latimer’s column